Personal Growth & Changing Your Life
Wanting vs. Doing
Wanting change is one thing. Doing change is quite another. Facing or creating change in your life change represents forging into the unknown, the unfamiliar. And even though a given change or event may be desirable at a conscious level, as a species, and through evolution, we have developed an inborn resistance to these changes at the subconscious level.
This unease, fearful, sometimes anxious feeling is a caused by the inappropriate triggering of an ancient survival mechanism called fight or flight, a trait we share with all other sentient creatures. Of course in the days of our ancestors, survival really was often a choice of fight, or flee, or perish. Just imagine the angst they felt when a family of saber toothed cats forced them out of the only habitable cave or dwelling for miles around. Out in the open, with all those scary beasts licking their chops— remember we weren’t always at the top of the food chain— Yikes, high anxiety!
Today we’ve evolved past that primal survival mode, but our minds still carry it so we’ve transferred it to other areas of our lives. Almost all of us are familiar with that little (or big) tug of uneasiness we feel inside when we find out we’re being transferred to another department or another city, or maybe our job is being eliminated. Maybe it’s caused by a loved one who is leaving us, or some other impending occurrence or event like an operation, a big exam, delivering a speech or presentation, an upcoming competition of some sort, etc.
For some people even the though that something completely unknown, but beyond their control might happen creates a feeling of constant disquiet or unrest that we call general or free floating anxiety. It can be crippling, even though the individual knows logically that there is no threat.
So what is a person to do? The good news is that the human brain is very plastic, meaning flexible and adaptable and capable of in learning these old and resistant responses and then learning new responses to the old triggers.
Hypnosis, NLP, and the other tools I use have precisely that effect; allowing an individual’s mind to enter that flexible, plastic, condition and facilitating the unlearning and relearning. The effect is to create a new comfort zone— a new known that the resistance mechanism doesn’t view as a threat.
The result? New feelings, attitudes, behaviors and emotions; a new sense of control and comfort; a much more powerful life. And that is what I am devoted to help my clients achieve!